Category: Adult Children of Alcoholics
If Shakespeare Were an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
We, alcoholics’ adult children, are
Not alone; together we can stand tall.
Many of us have grown and come quite far
From the circumstance that unites us all.
Healing the Child Within by Dr. Charles L. Whitfield M.D.
“Healing the Child Within”… I can honestly say that this book changed my life in a very profound way.
How a Negative Self Image Starts
Children who grow up in alcoholic or other types of dysfunctional homes are in a regular state of insecurity starting as infants
Dysfunctional Family Roles
There are four basic roles that children take on in order to survive growing up in emotionally dishonest, shame-based, dysfunctional families. Hero, Scapegoat, Mascot, Invisible.
My core belief was a lie
By the time I reached 30 I truly believed beyond all reason that I was a complete failure because I couldn’t fix my family.
Victim Mentality and People Pleasing
We lived life from the standpoint of victims. Having an overdeveloped sense of responsibility, we preferred to be concerned with others rather than ourselves. We got guilt feelings when we stood up for ourselves rather than giving in to others. Thus, we became reactors rather than actors, letting others take the initiative.
What every adult child of a dysfunctional family thinks
When you come from a dysfunctional family you always want to fix your family. You imagine that if you say the right thing, or do the right thing maybe they will change and treat you the way you want. The next logical step in this thought process is to become a therapist.
How to start getting help
If you can relate to the traits listed in the Laundry List then its time to get some help. I know how overwhelming it can feel but I really encourage you to start the recovery process. You are totally worth it!
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